Just The Tip…

IMG_5309 Are you a tipper?

Are you  generous tipper?

In Ireland we don’t have much of a tipping culture. It is very much a discretionary choice and it is not frowned upon to not tip at all. The OH and I have very different attitudes towards tipping. He always tips… even if the service was substandard or mediocre. When the service is good, he tips very generously… too generously in my opinion.

I don’t think I’m a mean person… I will and I do tip, but I do it when I feel it has been deserved.

I am kind of in agreement with Mr. Pink on this one…

It occurs to me, why tip a hairdresser but not dental hygienist? Why tip a waitress but not an air steward or helpful shop assistant or your aerobic instructor? Why do we select certain professions to tip whilst not tipping others? In America it is customary to tip the bartender for simply pouring you a beer, but not the cook in the kitchen. Why do we feel that we must tip someone for simply carrying out their job?

I understand that in many countries, once again America springs to mind, tipping is culturally very important. This is because typically people in the service jobs that receive tips are only paid the minimum wage, if that, so it is understood that tipping is a necessary part of their pay. In fact in America, federal law ALLOWS tips to be used to take servers’ salaries up to the minimum wage! I think it is shocking, and just plain wrong, that employers can get away with paying people as little as $2-$3 per hour.

I argue that, rather than supporting a system where the government allows employers to drastically underpay their staff, which in turn puts pressure on customers to subsidise their meagre pay cheque, why not tighten the regulations about minimum pay and treat employees with the respect they deserve and pay them according to their worth? This way, people in service jobs are paid a fair and decent wage, employers are forced to act responsibly, the government gets more tax revenue and the awkward social etiquette of tipping is eradicated.

I have heard horror stories, again mostly from America, of people being hounded and publicly shamed for not leaving a tip that the server felt was sufficient, or of people being chased out on the street by a server who was upset at the absence of a tip.

There are countries where tipping is virtually non-existent or even discouraged or forbidden. In Australia, Spain, Singapore, Switzerland and New Zealand tipping it not customary or expected. It is illegal in Argentina, considered insulting in Japan, Oman and Yemen, and is included in the price in many other countries, hence rendering it pointless.

How about the fact that not every one is in a position to tip well, if at all?

I don’t work outside the home. I am financially dependent on the OH and I don’t feel that when I go to my hairdresser, who owns and runs her own very successful business, that I should have to pay her any extra over the already high prices she charges. She is very skilled at her profession, but she earns more than I do, (seeing as I earn nothing), so it seems perfectly okay to me that I do not tip her. Instead, I always review her highly on Facebook, recommend her salon and thank her for doing such a good job whenever I visit. She has the security of knowing that she has a loyal repeat customer in me, and has had for the past 8 years.

The OH has a theory that men tip more often and more generously than women. I am not sure I agree with him on this, so I’d love it if you took my poll and let’s see who is right! Or leave me a comment answering these questions: FullSizeRender

I guess you guys think I am a mean, crotchety, parsimonious, penny-pinching, miserly Scrooge now! But honestly… I am really a nice person and generous too… just don’t expect a tip automatically from me! image1 Ciao! 💋

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47 thoughts on “Just The Tip…

  1. I’m a 37 year old unemployed, unmarried female. I live in the US. Here in the states, tipping has become (or maybe it’s always been) out of control. I understand tip your waiter. But when I go to Starbucks, stand at the counter, & order a coffee, and the batista makes it & hands it to me, I don’t want to be TOLD that I MUST put a “couple dollars” into the tip jar. Bitch, it’s your job to make my coffee, Starbucks pays you a salary to do exactly that. I get my hair cut & I have to tip the shampoo girl, the girl who hands the shampoo girl the towel, the fussy man who actually cuts my hair, the woman who blows out my hair. I went to the Opera earlier this month. In the restroom, I peed & washed my hands. An attendant told me I had to tip her. I said, “Did you pee for me?”
    Everybody got their hand out.

  2. I don’t automatically tip – but will if the service or food in a restaurant has been good. I have never tipped a hairdresser, though that might be cos I’ve had so many haircuts I’ve been unhappy with 🙂
    Also, as a florist, I think I have a sneaking resentment for hairdressers who people do tip when people never (or VERY rarely) tip florists, even if you’ve done a big job, or spent a lot of time with some one, making sure they’re delighted with the result – weddings for instance. I’ve been a florist for over twenty years and can count my tips on one hand – and we’re ususally not paid much above minimum wage, either..
    Odd, isn’t it? Cafe staff, taxi drivers, postmen and bin men (but only at Christmas) but not shop staff. Mind you, the service in some shops … I think I’ve found another pet peeve 🙂

  3. I’m an over generous tipper. However, in my neck of the woods, tipping is still limited to wait staff… hair dressers are optional, I tend to only tip those that work in the big discount chains and depend heavily on tips. I will tip even if the service isn’t great, but I’ll only tip 15% as opposed to 30%. I don’t plan to go out to a nice restaurant without factoring tip into the cost of the meal.

    I don’t do coffee shops, and NEVER would even think of tipping at a fast food joint! LOL Tipping is an extra courtesy for extra service. In other words, the person should be working for it! Making coffee? Nope. However, if you were to say, make my coffee, throw in a personal touch like a flower in a vase, and bring it out to my car for me, I might tip for that 😉

    Having been desperately for part of my life, I know what it can mean to someone. I wouldn’t begrudge them that. It should not be expected though. I hate entitlement. No, you do a good job and make me happy, and I’ll tip above and beyond. If you feel you’re entitled to it? Well, I’m entitled to free service, then. What’s good for the goose!

    Also, you are not a mean person! LOL I think they are just cultural differences.

    It would be nice if someone would tip me at the end of my day, though, for tending the garden, cooking, cleaning the toilet 😉 that would be awesome!!!

  4. Mmm you raise some very interesting points about tipping there. I am going to miss you when you emigrate to Argentina though, given how strongly you feel about tipping! I totally agree with the points and comments about people feeling entitled to a tip. That is just wrong. But is it nice to tip, to share the love. C’mon Kat, share the love…

  5. I’m a male that lives in the US. I almost always tip, but it really depends on the level of service. I feel that they work for it, and a great job should be shown appreciation. But, if the service is horrible (and it is the person’s fault) then the tip will reflect. I tend to tip anyone that directly provides a service to me, ie. Wait staff, barber, or anyone else in the service industry. Again, depending on the level of service, my tips range from 15 to 20 percent.

    • I think there is a large cultural aspect to it.
      I’ve heard of in the US leaving a penny tip to point out really dreadful service.
      I really think your laws need changing though, it is immoral to now pay people properly, IMHO anyway.
      Thanks for answering my questions!

      • Leaving a penny tip to point out dreadful service, so the secret is out. Europeans call us “the ugly americans” because some (not all) of us have that habit of making a point to be ride/disrespectful to others. I was once on a date with a guy, we had lunch & the service was soooo slow. Anyway the guy threw a penny at the waiter, as a “tip” & said “maybe next time you bring the food a little faster, you get a better tip”. Right there I told the guy I didn’t want any more to do with him (that had been our first date). He insisted that I then reimburse him for lunch. I gladly did, happy to be rid of him.

      • Usually if the service is so bad that I feel I have to leave no tip, I make certain they know why. Likewise, if service is great, I let them know as well. But, leaving a penny tip is just a slap in the face. I prefer to be as constructive as possible.

      • Thanks for following. The menu isn’t working because I haven’t completed setting it up. Something about the real world interfering and whatnot. 🙂

  6. Where I live, service is included i the price of food, so I may tip if service was nice, but only a few Euros, generally. Unless I’m coming in a big group, with lots of children, that is going to make their job harder.
    I tip the bartender a little something, sometimes, but maybe not every time. So expect a tip from me in he evening, probably not more.
    I leave a little something extra for my hairdresser… if I remember. I’ll give some money to the postman, firemen, garbage men etc…
    About the lady in the toilet… I really wouldn’t want her job (I have seen people wipe their sh*t on the walls of stalls, or throw up everywhere)… so if she is pleasant, I’ll probably tip her, unless I had to pay to enter the restroom already.
    I guess I have a better approach towards tipping than most Europeans because I lived in the States for so long!
    But if your service was poor, if you didn’t make me feel good about myself or the experience, if you come to me feeling entitled to anything… you probably won’t get much from me 🙂

      • I wouldn’t say ‘very’, but yeah, I know that there are a few jobs I’d rather not do, and I’m willing to show the people who do it that I appreciate their time and effort.
        Maybe it also comes from having been well-off for quite a while and having had a generous tipper for a husband. Or maybe it’s because I know what it’s like to have your work not being recognised…
        When I was broke last year, I would tip much less. You can only give what you have, and I didn’t have much money.
        But I am never shy with my smiles and love, because I have plenty to share 🙂

  7. Tipping for so-so service always leaves a bad taste……I don’t mind doing it when the service comes with a smile.

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