30 Day Self Esteem Challenge 08


Day 8: The last time you smiled when someone complimented you.  What was the compliment and why did you smile?

Well, the OH is lovely enough to tell me daily that he thinks I’m beautiful… not that I believe it!

Yesterday I was having one of those days… you know, feeling fat, frumpy, ugly and just plain gross. So, naturally, I did what we all do these days; I announced it to Twitter.

I left the house to run some errands and on my return found so  many replies to my tweet, telling me I am “beautiful/wonderful/gorgeous/stupendous/lovely/etc/etc” which made me smile.

I wasn’t smiling because my friends thought those things about me… after all they are hardly likely to reply, “Yeah! You are gross Kat!”

I was touched that so many of them took time out of their day to try to cheer me up and make me feel better about myself. I felt that people cared about me and my well-being and what more can any of us ask for than that? To matter to people…

I am still feeling gross today. A demoralising shopping trip to buy a new bra certainly didn’t help my body image issues. But yesterday, for a short while, reading the lovely supportive comments from my friends, I smiled.

If any of them are reading this… thank you, from the bottom of my heart. Your kindness meant so much to me.

Ciao!

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30 Day Self Esteem Challenge 07


Day 7: When do you feel best about yourself?  Why?

On a superficial level I felt best about myself when I was thinner… ah those were the days…

These days, I feel best about myself when I am making the OH laugh out loud or when he makes me laugh uncontrollably, which he does frequently.

I love to laugh and I love it even more if I can make someone else laugh. There is no better feeling ever… well, maybe except for orgasms…

Ciao!

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30 Day Self Esteem Challenge 06


Day 6: Something about the way I just am that I like

At the risk of being repetitive…

I like that I am a friendly person, that genuinely likes other people and finds them endlessly fascinating.

This, coupled with my very curious nature, lead me to study psychology in university, a topic I am still passionate about to this day. There is nothing as interesting to me as other human beings; how we ‘work’, how we think, process and learn, how we feel, how we interact, communicate and understand each other and the world around us.

Child psychology, social psychology, cognitive psychology, occupational psychology, the psychology of ageing and dying, counselling psychology,neuroscience… to some degree I have studied all of them and was unable to pick a speciality to settle on, despite several opportunities to study further.

I think I am a ‘jack of all trades’ when it comes to my fascination with people.

I love reaching out, connecting and building new friendships, learning about people. I love people watching, eavesdropping, and imagining who they are, what they do, what their lives are like. I love keeping up to date on research, which is ongoing and seemingly endless in it’s potential to uncover new facts about us and our truly incredible brains.

So, that’s one thing about the way I am that I like…

I am hard-wired to love and to seek to understand other people.

C’est moi!

Ciao!

💋

Cara

Dawn

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30 Day Self Esteem Challenge 05


Day 5: Something about the way I think that I like.

I covered a lot of this in the post about my personality.

One thing I do like about how I think is that I am an idealist, a dreamer, a “why not?” type of person. I ask “Why can’t we?” rather than accept the status quo or conventional way of doing things.

I find it hard to accept that we, society, are not capable of change and being better than we are now. Where the OH sees the limitations of humanity, (his go to motto is “People are cunts”!), I see the potential and infinite capacity for good in us all.

This perhaps naivety costs me at times as I assume the best about people, cut them slack, give them second, third and forth chances only to be let down and hurt. Perhaps those people simply haven’t reached their level of development that allows them to progress? I don’t know… but I won’t change how I think because of them.

I will continue to be a dreamer, an idealist, believing in all things good. I find it’s a happier way to be, for me anyway.

Ciao!

💋

Cara

Dawn

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30 Day Self Esteem Challenge 04


Read Cara’s post here.

Day 4: A habit I have that I like

I am a very outgoing, happy-go-lucky type of gal. I can strike up conversations anywhere, with anyone.

I cannot help myself but compliment random strangers… all the time!

One day I told the pretty blonde in the pharmacy that her lipstick flattered her and looked amazing. The blush and smile that elicited from her was wonderful and we ended up chatting about take up brands. She giggled at the end of our chat and said thank you. I think I made her day.

In M&S one day I commented that the checkout lady had a lovely South London accent and she stopped in her tracks and said that none else had ever complimented her on it. She was chuffed!

I approached a woman one day to ask her where she had bough there trousers because I liked them so much. Her smile nearly split her face in two and she was more than happy to tell me where she bought them.

Another shop assistant got the “Kat treatment” when I told her I loved her facial piercings. She excitedly lifted her long hair to show the one on the nape of her neck and advised me where to go for the same thing.

I regularly praise and promote fellow bloggers whose work I admire and respect. I think it is a good thing to do, after all, us bloggers gotta stick together!

My philosophy is that life is that tough enough so if I can spread a little happiness along the way why ever would I not do so? I don’t even do it consciously most of the time. The words slip out before my brain gets a chance to censor them!

So, I think my uncontrollable habit of paying, (genuine), compliments and making people smile is one thing about myself I do like a lot.

Ciao!

ps… do I sound crazy???!

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30 Day Self Esteem Challenge 03


Day 3: A part of my personality I like

This one I find easier than the physical attributes of the past two days! At last!

I like quite a lot about my personality!

I think I’m funny, (I am, aren’t I?! Aren’t I????).

I’m thoughtful and kind to people. I always make time for others and put their needs before my own.

I like that I am not a judgemental person, a ‘live and let live’ type of person.

I like that I am creative, from writing to cooking, gardening, photography, crafting, I am always thinking about or doing something creative.

I like that I am curious… about everything! People, places, ideas, facts, I absorb knowledge like a little sponge. I ask questions constantly and am always looking for new or better ways to do things. I hope I’ll never stop learning.

Oh and I almost forgot… I’m incredibly modest and humble too! 😂

Ciao!

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30 Day Self Esteem Challenge 02


Once again thanks to Cara over at Voluptuouscara for this challenge.

I hope you all play along and together we will lift our combined self esteem skyward!

Day 2: A physical feature I like about myself

Hmmmmm… Okaaaay…

I stand at a grand height of 5’0″ and I actually love it!

Many shorter people seem to want to be taller, more leggy, longer.

Most short women, (and plenty of taller ones for that matter), wear high heels. I own ONE pair of heels and, trust me, I don’t walk in them, if you get my drift… They have never seen life outside of the bedroom. Oops! I fib… they’ve been downstairs too!

I live in my Converse or flat biker boots. I need to wear footwear that will allow me to make a get away if needs be. I am unable to walk in heels, let alone run. In fact, capturing my Sinful Sunday photos of my high heels was a semi-comic event, whereby I stood, balancing as best I could whilst begging the OH to “Take the goddamned pic already!”

I enjoy being short.

I can weave easily in and through crowds, often leaving the OH far behind and struggling catch up to me. I get to buy my shoes in the kids department, thus avoiding VAT… although having an Irish size 2 shoe size definitely limits my selection choices. Thankfully, Converse do a kids range!

Finding clothes can be challenging but it’s possible. Reaching higher shelves in shops leaves me usually looking around, all damsel in distress style for a taller person to assist me. I can look comical in some armchairs with my feet swinging high above the floor, or at high tables and, yes, I have a child’s car booster seat so I can comfortably sit at my kitchen table. But I embrace it. I think it’s a cute and a unique part of me.

There are many things I would happily change about my body, (I know this not the place to discuss that), but my height has never been one of them.

As I say on my Twitter bio… Good things come in small packages!

Ciao!

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